Tom's Thoughts on Vows in 2024

When it comes to wedding vows in 2024, I find the ones that resonate most are those that focus on why you are marrying your partner rather than promises of what you are going to do. Traditional vows often recite a series of commitments. While these promises are beautiful, they tend to be somewhat expected and, frankly, not very interesting.

Guests at your wedding are eager to hear what truly makes your relationship unique, whether it's the deep, emotional bonds that define your connection or the quirky, everyday moments that have brought you closer.

There’s no textbook length for vows. I’ve witnessed profoundly touching vows that span several pages and equally powerful ones that consist of just a few lines. Typically, vows might be about a third-of-a-page, but the key is to do what feels right for you and your relationship. Vows can be funny and silly if that’s your thing, or they can be serious and deep. Most of the time, they’ll be a combination of both. What’s important is that they match who you are as individuals.

To add an element of surprise and excitement, I always recommend keeping your vows secret from each other until the big moment. This adds a layer of fun and surprise to the ceremony and makes it that bit more special and unique.

I understand that writing and reading vows can be a nerve-wracking experience for many. However, from my experience, it’s absolutely worth the effort. To assist, I provide examples of vows, offer guidance, and even review your vows beforehand to ensure both of you are aligned in tone and sentiment.

Remember, your wedding is a personal celebration; don’t let tradition or other people dictate what you need to do. If “the vows” aren’t your thing, then let’s work together to keep them to the bare legal minimum and make your ceremony special in a different way.